Letter to Gays


published on  July 8, 2014

written by PAUL JOSEPH C.

Gay Rainbow flag

ur dear and beloved friends,
Welcome to The WILD VOICE: we are honored to have you visit our pages and posts.

There is a lot we could tell you, but words can do so much when two thousand years passed this world and left so many scars. And how easy would it be for us, young Catholic men, to fall into those same apologetic banalities that so much you've had to hear.
It's been difficult to meet in the middle, hasn't it? We, the hypocritical religious people going to Sunday's morning Mass and dressed in elegant attire while worshiping a poor, wounded and discarded Christ on a cross. And you, the cast aside modern-day lepers who will 'rot in Hell' for the 'sins of the flesh' and the immoral social behaviors that so much scandalize the self-righteous.
It's been hard when entire governments, communities, and religious groups crucified you without piety. When people of false virtue persecuted you, spat upon you, insulted you, abused you, discriminated you, ridiculed you, injured you and often killed you in a sudden moment of blind insanity.
As you know very well, some of them were either hating you because they hated that part of themselves that they repressed and needed to kill in themselves through you – or they were hating you because they hated that lively, explosive, unique, colorful and contentious spirit which only helped them see their own sadness and misery so very typical of the living dead. Or, maybe they so much loved all that is you to become attracted to you while they found themselves fantasizing about prohibited homoerotic copulations as they were laying in bed next to that "now usual" wife – and that killed them inside. And what could be the best option if not to get rid of the problem by killing it at its root? And so instead of killing themselves they killed you, innocent people who, like colorful flowers in a monotonously green field, brought many smiles in a gray society.

Then you grew: you became more secure and confident. You fought your battles and decided to stand up for yourselves. You conquered lands that were unfathomably unreachable like the Visigoths did when entering Roman territories. The imprisonments, injustices and murders you suffered at the mercy of police forces were both tragic and unfortunately needed in reaching the place where you stand today – we know from history that much evil has to occur before the selfish and blind eyes of society can begin to notice it.
So much is owed to those who suffered the shame and pain of gradually dying until their human dignity was stripped by the horror of its decaying flesh because of one unfortunate sexual encounter – and so that four letter virus became your leprosy, your stigmata, your mark of recognition in the silent holocaust taking place in hospitals' terminal care. 

In all the persecutions, abuses, insults, violence, murders, slander, ridicule, intolerance, disrespect, hatred and pain that you have suffered, God Has Witnessed to Himself and you have witnessed Him to us. Whether you may or may not be aware of this most honorable heritage, God Was and still Is with you in every possible way. In you, His Son (Who Suffered of the same persecutions which you have suffered) relived His Passion through your own passion and suffered of the same flagellation that you suffered.
You must know with all your conviction and force of will that the greatest pain the Lord Endured in your pain was the one caused by those who declare to be His followers: the Christians.
You must know with the same certainty with which you know that your heart is beating in this very present, that the same judgment inflicted upon you by the "religious righteous" in the name of Jesus Christ will be used to judge them. You must also know that their missed God-given opportunity of showing love towards you will turn into a cry of regretful pain when their souls will contemplate Christ's disfigured Face wounded by their hatred towards you…unless they repent.

This is also true. As you have suffered, so all do suffer. As we Christians are imperfect, so are you imperfect, so all are imperfect. And as God Loves YOU, so HE Loves ALL His children.

God Takes no sides: it rains on the just and the unjust, as we know from the Bible.

God is LoveThis is why we, of The WILD VOICE, ask for your support. We ask you to please open your hearts to that Jesus Christ who never persecuted you, judged you, hated, or rejected you. He Waits for you each and every moment…for each one of you, unique individual that you are. He Is madly in love with each one of you, no matter what you have or have not done.
Please, try not to let the evil one that operated through other human beings ruin God's Image in your minds and hearts.  God Is ONLY Love. Only and always —
You might say "But your religion declares homosexuality as an abomination, as a grave sin". This is true. It is also true that fornication among heterosexual people is declared to be just as much of a grave sin.  As is pornography.  As is contraception. WE ARE ALL SINNERS. The sinner is loved but the sin is not.  All are called to repentance.

And so we must love the person at all costs – no matter what he or she may do – in the same way God Loves each one of us.
It is my sins I shall worry about while others' shortcomings I shall not keep count of as I instead love, forgive, and love again.
On behalf of all those who are in this mission to fight against the evil about to descend upon us all: we, your brothers and sisters, need your force, your strength, your experience, your love.

And as much as we need you, so does God the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit Whom Has Created you in love…because He Loves you.

In the Name of the Eternal Father,
The Beloved Son,
And the Most Holy Spirit,





7 comments for “Letter to Gays

  1. Britanica
    November 12, 2015 at 11:24 AM

    I wish more people would read this. So many form the gay community and those who support gay freedoms and rights believe that anyone who believes in God is against them. What they don't understand is that children of God love them more then the straight people who back them. This isn't a matter of gay vs God or the bible vs sexual orientation. We all sin and we are all sinners. God loves us all. If God can love a murderer, do you think he can hate a gay man? No WAY! People need to stop assuming all of us who love and know God are against anyone who is gay. I for one feel like the only reason there are issues here is because God tells them, deep down, that it isn't natural so they are fighting themselves. They want freedom from their sin but will not ever find it until they come to God. It is the same for all of us.

  2. Brad
    August 13, 2014 at 4:23 PM

    I'm gay. I'm Catholic. I'm confused. I really like the way you write and I appreciate that you say we are all sinners which is the truth. I like the comment above also and too grew up in a 'fundamentalist' baptist church. It was always better to "hide" and "pretend". I took the easy way out I guess. I know I am a sinner and I know that having sex outside of marriage (for gay and straight people too) is a sin. It's very hard. The best advice I ever got was from a Priest after confession and he said to me to pray for the DESIRE of holiness. This helped a lot. God bless you for your gentle spirit and your obvious love of our Savior Jesus Christ. Please keep writing. God bless you.

      August 15, 2014 at 12:00 PM

      Dear Brad,

      Thanks for the words ~

      I, myself, have several gay friends who are away from God because of a guilt provoked by the many unjust accusations from so-called Christians.
      The advice you have received from that priest is absolutely what you need…is also what I need…is also what everybody else needs. I wish every gay person (who's away from the Lord) could find the grace to overcome the noise of religious hypocrisy and hear the sweet voice of a God Who is tirelessly in love with each and every one of us, sinners of mud.
      Dear Brad: you said that you're gay. I would, instead, tell you that you're not gay but that you're a child of God.
      You said that you're confused, but judging from your words and humility, you're as confused as every other human being on earth and you're as clear as any other good Christian is.

      We, judgmental men and women who so quickly go for the apple, enjoy dividing our brothers and sisters into 'categories', one of which is based on human sexual orientation. But that is NOT how God Sees us: when He Looks at you, He does not See a gay person – how sad would that be? He instead Sees that baby He Created with so much love as well as all the trials you must endure for the sake of reuniting with Him in the Eternal Kingdom.
      Keep doing what you're doing in faith and never despair, for Our Lord Understands all things and forgives all sins when we confess them with a true contrite heart. Then the "impossible" graces will come —

      Try speaking to your Mom in the following words and with a simple heart:

      Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary,
      that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection,
      implored your help or sought your intercession,
      was left unaided.

      Inspired with this confidence,
      I fly to you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother;
      to you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful.

      O Mother of the Word Incarnate,
      despise not my petitions,
      but in your mercy hear and answer me.


      Never was it known…

      God Bless you and please, feel free to write more if you have the need or desire to do so. This sinner is always happy to help, because it is also in helping others that we are being helped. We are all together on this journey. No one is alone, or above others, or better than some, or less worthy than some others.



    • Claude
      January 2, 2020 at 6:42 PM

      It s not about sexual orientation. It s about having children and preparing them to go to heaven,
      and live eternal happiness.

  3. Nina Santamaria
    July 18, 2014 at 7:28 AM

    I was raised in an Independent Fundamental Baptist church, so as you can imagine – the homophobia and hate towards gay people in the name of Jesus Christ was insurmountable. I also knew from a young age that I was gay. Nonetheless, I believe wholeheartedly in Jesus as my Lord and Savior and – no matter what these religious right people say to me, I stand firm in my faith that Jesus loves even me and I have no more reason to be ashamed of my sinful nature than anyone else.

    As an openly gay woman now, herein lies the problem. Although there are many churches or Christian denominations that now "accept" gays into their congregation or fold, they still believe the actual homosexual act to be a sin. They are not "accepting" so much as condescendingly "tolerating". The thing is this, when you equate a deep mutual love between two human beings as a sin just as bad as say, drug use or adultery or theft or abuse of a child (any sin really) you're undermining the love these people have for one another. You're STILL saying that it's wrong, but you say – "hey, we're all sinners." Yes, I agree. We are ALL SINNERS. But my committed, monogamous relationship with my future wife (yes, I said future wife because the word "partner" implies that we are different from anyone else and I refuse to use that term) is not the reason I am a sinner. I am a sinner because I was born into that nature, I am a sinner because I am weak, I've lied, I've hurt people, I've thought sinful thoughts, I've lost my temper with no justification, I've done many things that I shouldn't have done. But loving this one person is not part of that.

    I've had many years to think on this, to study the Bible, to try and reconcile my faith with my spirituality – and I can't say I've come up with any answers but I will say this: I've talked with God, I walk with God (not as in, I'm spiritually superior, but as in, I ask God for answers and help and wait for Him to respond in one way or another, be it through the Bible or some life event that opens my eyes to some truth), I beg and plead with God to stay with me and never give up on me and keep me in His arms because, no – I don't have all the answers, but I have a very very very hard time believing that I was clearly born with this predisposition only to be condemned for it.

    Many religious people think homosexuality is ONLY a sexual thing. This is absolutely FALSE. It is very sad to think that so many out there really and truly believe I have built my ENTIRE life around sexual desire. There is so much more to it. There are issues of confused gender identity, there are issues of feeling a deep connectedness with someone of the same sex that I could never achieve with the opposite sex, feelings of safety of completeness of wholeness of FAMILY. I have built a family with a woman and we have no agenda. There is NO gay agenda other than to simply live life the way everyone else does – go to work, go grocery shopping, pay bills and taxes reluctantly, daydream about vacations, cuddle at night in the safety of each other's arms, raise children, love our family, love each other, LOVE GOD. Sex is far, far down on the list. It is the religious fanatics that want to believe that's all LGBTQ people do. Possibly because they are afraid of what they don't understand? So instead of trying to understand the depth and complexity of it, they spew hate – and what's worse, they do so in the name of God Himself.

    So yes, I absolutely agree with the fact that God loves me. I absolutely agree that Jesus hasn't left my side, not for one minute and not for one second. What I don't concede to, is this idea that ANY religion fully accepts or understands the plight of the LGBTQ community, especially those who have faith and are spiritually inclined and believe in one God, specifically Jesus.

    When I was 4 years old I walked up to my mother, tugged on her shirt and said, "Mama, I think God made a mistake. I think I was supposed to be born a boy." These were the words and that was the moment that set the stage for a lifetime of confusion, guilt, sadness, fear, doubt, shame and hiding. I cannot say why God made me this way. I have no idea. I just know that He did. Someday, I hope to have the opportunity to ask Him. I have much more to say on this topic, but – as I type these words, the tears stream down my face. I've come to the conclusion that heterosexual religious people, no matter what religion or denomination they are, will never understand what it is like. I've made peace with that. It is a very sad thing, indeed. What keeps me afloat in this terrible world filled with hate, is knowing that God Himself will never leave me or forsake me.

      July 18, 2014 at 5:13 PM

      Thanks so much for the incredible testimony!

      I am truly moved by your words.
      Your comment is more of a true LETTER, which I can only reflect on while omitting my useless words.

      Right now, all I can dare to say is that God Loves each and every individual who breaths oxygen under the Heavens.
      We are ALL born sinners, as you said. We ALL commit sins…constantly.

      I will write a longer response to your beautiful thoughts after a deeper meditation, especially because I fear my possible inability to objectively discern my own words and their nature. This subject is extremely delicate and cannot be generalized into a 'sexual orientation' or 'social status' category.
      In the meantime, feel free to direct any gay friend who'd be willing to share his/her thoughts on this page. As you said, there is too much to write on the subject: every person…every life…every moment is a whole universe in itself.

      Much love to you.
      Thanks again and God Bless you…because yes: GOD LOVES YOU ALWAYS, ALWAYS and FOREVER ALWAYS.

    • Steve Tily
      October 8, 2014 at 10:44 AM

      "God Takes no sides: it rains on the just and the unjust, as we know from the Bible."

      AMEN! I just wrote this on a post it note and put it on the wall by my bed. And Nina, thank you so much for sharing your story. I hope you and your future wife live a long and blessed life. You're an inspiration to how we should all carry ourselves. With love and compassion. God didn't make a mistake. You're here for a reason.

      Have a wonderful day,

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